The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a research-backed assessment that gives you a detailed look at your relationship, education about what makes relationships work, and evidence-based recommendations for strengthening yours.
The Checkup draws on more than 50 years of research from The Gottman Institute, giving you a framework for understanding the patterns and behaviors that affect your relationship.


The Relationship Checkup is an online assessment based on the Sound Relationship House, the Gottmans' framework for understanding the nine essential components of a healthy, lasting relationship.
Each partner answers 337 confidential questions about friendship, intimacy, emotional connection, conflict, compromise, trust, commitment, finances, household responsibilities, family, stress, and individual concerns.

A personalized relationship report
Your answers are combined into a detailed 10-page report with your results and recommendations.
An education in healthy relationships
Learn the behaviors and patterns that help relationships stay happy, healthy, and connected.
Evidence-based recommendations
Get practical recommendations for strengthening the areas that need attention.
A way to measure your progress
Retake the Checkup after 90 days at no additional cost and compare your results.

Work on your relationship together
Use your results to choose specific areas to discuss and improve together.
Use the Relationship Builder
The Relationship Builder provides practical exercises and education to help you work on specific areas of your relationship.
Bring your results to couples therapy
Your report can give you and your therapist a useful starting point and help focus your work on the areas that matter most to your relationship.
I use the Relationship Checkup with every new couples therapy client because it gives me a detailed picture of each couple's strengths and challenges and helps me tailor therapy to their specific needs.
No. Each partner completes the assessment privately on their own device. Your partner will not see how you answered individual questions. Your report focuses on the overall strengths and challenges in your relationship rather than identifying which partner gave which response.
Each partner completes the assessment separately. It takes about 60 minutes, and you can pause and return to it if you don't want to complete it all at once.
You'll receive your personalized 10+ page report within one day after both partners complete the assessment.
Yes. Both partners need to complete the assessment so your report can reflect both perspectives and provide a more complete picture of your relationship.
You don't need to be ready for therapy to take the Checkup. Your results can help you understand which areas of your relationship need attention and decide what you want to do next.
Your report will help you understand which areas need attention and give you practical recommendations for where to begin. Seeing areas that need work can be difficult, but it can also be a relief to finally have a clearer understanding of what is happening and what you can do about it.
Absolutely. You don't have to be in crisis to take a closer look at your relationship. The Checkup can help you identify strengths you want to continue building and areas where you can become even stronger.
Yes. Your purchase includes a free reassessment 90 days or more after your first Checkup. Taking it again gives you a chance to compare your results and measure your progress.
Yes. The Gottman Relationship Checkup is designed for all couples, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation, and Gottman research includes studies of gay and lesbian couples.
Get a clear picture of your relationship, learn what makes relationships work, and find specific areas you can strengthen together.
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Megan Haase, LPCC
956 Walnut St, Suite 200 C
Licensed counselor in:
California (LPCC 15735)
Washington (LH 61204759)
Florida (TPMC 2537)
South Carolina (TLC 588 PC)
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