Relationship Builder

A self-paced relationship program for couples who want to strengthen their connection

If you're serious about strengthening your relationship but weekly therapy doesn't fit your life right now, this program gives you everything you need to reconnect—on your schedule.

The Relationship Builder uses the Gottman Method to walk you through the exact skills that help couples stay strong over time. You’ll watch short teaching videos, see demonstrations of what works (and what definitely doesn’t), and complete guided exercises together that actually move the needle.

Many couples use it as a “relationship tune-up,” a way to reconnect when life feels busy, or a structured plan to stay emotionally close throughout the year.

Happy couple working together on Relationship Builder program at home on their couch

Preview video of Dr. John Gottman teaching Relationship Builder program modules

What’s Included

• Access to 13 relationship-strengthening modules

• 35 guided exercises to improve communication, intimacy, and teamwork

• 90 teaching videos with examples, tips, and demos

• A clear, step-by-step path you can follow at your own pace

• A private portal where you and your partner can track your progress

The modules:

The Gottman Method
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Calming Conflict
Connecting Through Conflict
Loving Out Loud
Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident
Repairing Conflict
Showing Up
Effective Listening
Goals and Dreams
Trust and Commitment
Finding Joy Together
Enriching Your Sex Life

Plus bonus: Gottman Conflict Blueprint

Couple enjoying working through Relationship Builder exercises together at home

This Is For Couples Who:

• Want to improve their relationship without weekly therapy

• Prefer self-paced learning they can do at home

• Want to feel more connected, understood, and supported

• Are hesitant about therapy but open to private, at-home tools

• Want to prevent small issues from becoming bigger problems

couple using Relationship Builder program for self-paced relationship strengthening

What You’ll Learn

• How to start conversations in a calmer, more effective way

• How to express needs without criticism

• How to reduce defensiveness and increase understanding

• How to rebuild emotional closeness and appreciation

• How to work through recurring issues as a team

• How to stay connected during stressful seasons of life

Couple learning relationship skills together using Relationship Builder guided exercises

Why Couples Love It

• No waitlists or scheduling stress

• Structured, guided, and available 24/7

• Self-paced learning they can do together at home

• Lifetime access means they can revisit tools during tough seasons

• $300 one-time vs. $175 per session ongoing fee

This Is NOT For

• Relationships with ongoing abuse or safety concerns

• Couples in crisis needing immediate help (book a 3-hour Intensive instead).

• Situations involving active addiction or ongoing affairs (individual therapy is recommended first).

Frequently Asked Questions

Do we both need to participate?

Both partners need their own login to access the portal. While one person could watch the videos independently, the program is designed for couples to work through together. Most of the value comes from completing the guided exercises as a team.

How long does it take to complete?

Most couples work through the program in 3-6 months, but you can move at whatever pace works for you. There's no deadline.

What if we need help or get stuck?

The program is self-guided, but you can always book a therapy session for personalized support.

Can we use this alongside therapy?

Absolutely! Many couples use the Builder to practice between therapy sessions. Some also enjoy learning directly from Drs. John and Julie Gottman themselves through the teaching videos and demonstrations.

What happens if we break up or decide not to do the program?

The program is a non-refundable digital product. Both partners receive lifetime access, so if you reconcile later or one partner wants to use the content in the future, it's still available.

How It Works

1. Purchase the program

The Relationship Builder is $300 per couple for lifetime access. Include your partner's name and email in the note.

2. Get your private portal
After checkout, you and your partner will receive an email invitation to your secure portal within 24 hours. All 13 modules are immediately available. Start with Module 1 (The Gottman Method) to understand the framework, or jump to whichever topic feels most urgent. Your progress saves automatically, and you can revisit any module anytime.

3. Start at your own pace
Watch the videos, complete the exercises together, and move through the modules whenever it works for you. Most couples complete 1-2 modules per week, but you can move faster or slower based on your schedule.

No waitlists. No scheduling. No guesswork. Just proven tools you can start using tonight. The earlier you invest in your relationship, the easier it is to strengthen it.

Get the Relationship Builder