Are you tired of getting stuck in the same old arguments, talking in circles, and not feeling heard? Imagine processing past fights without reigniting the conflict. This booklet will walk you through repairing the relationship after a fight. Repair is the secret sauce of happy couples!
The four horsemen are communication habits that increase the likelihood of relationship unhappiness and divorce. The Gottman Method helps couples to curb criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
The easiest way to improve your relationship is to pay attention to your partner during life’s small, everyday moments. This video shows you how. Gottman found that when couples break up, it’s usually not because of issues like big fights or infidelity. More often, it’s a result of the resentment and distance that builds up over time when partners continually turn away from bids for connection.
Thanks for stopping by! I love helping couples improve their relationship using the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy.
The first three minutes of a conflict discussion predicts with 96% accuracy how the rest of the conversation will go, and with 80% accuracy how the rest of the relationship will go.
“A tendency to turn toward your partner is the basis of trust, emotional connection, passion, and a satisfying sex life” The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work, page 88. Happy couples turned toward their partner’s bids for connection 86% of the time.
Longitudinal research indicates that over time, only 31% of couples’ problems are solvable. The rest, or 69% of couples’ problems are perpetual. They don’t get solved over time. Perpetual problems stem from differences in personality and lifestyle preferences between partners. The masters of relationship can dialogue about these perpetual issues, while the disasters of relationship get gridlocked about them.
How happy are you and your partner in your relationship? Discover the areas that need improvement with the Gottman Relationship Checkup. This online tool eliminates the guesswork by providing a detailed analysis of your relationship health, based on over 50 years of research.
The Gottman Relationship Builder is perfect for couples who enjoy self-study and want a DIY option for relationship improvement. This powerful tool offers access to an extensive library of videos and exercises you can do at your own pace.
The module topics include friendship and intimacy, connecting through conflict, fondness and admiration, emotional bank accounts, managing perpetual problems, effective listening, self-soothing, goals and dreams, trust and commitment, finding joy together, conflict blueprint, and enriching your sex life.
Building love and trust involves really listening to your partner, which is not as easy as it sounds. Asking the right questions, empathizing, and making someone feel understood are skills that can dramatically increase intimacy in any relationship.
Megan Haase, LMHC LPCC
Copyright © 2024 All Rights Reserved.
We use cookies to analyze website traffic and optimize your website experience. By accepting our use of cookies, your data will be aggregated with all other user data.