Dr. John Gottman is a relationship researcher and couples therapist based in Seattle. He has been researching what makes relationships work for over 40 years at the University of Washington. His research predicted whether couples would stay together with 94% accuracy. John and his wife Dr. Julie Gottman used those findings to develop a therapeutic method for improving relationships and studies have demonstrated that it is highly effective. The goals of the Gottman Method include increasing closeness and friendship, addressing conflict productively, and building a life of shared meaning.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman give an overview of the Gottman Method
The four horsemen are communication habits that increase the likelihood of relationship unhappiness and divorce. The Gottman Method helps couples to curb criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
If you want to learn more about the research, tools, and exercises that the Gottman Institute offers, I highly recommend the Art and Science of Love Worshop presented by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The online workshop allows you to learn with your partner at your own pace.